I recently read an article entitled ‘Why Good Girls Have Become Unicorns‘ by a person named Preston Waters. In essence the article is about how it is very difficult for men to find a decent self respecting woman these days. Why, you ask? According to Preston women have devolved. We have devolved because in an attempt to adapt to modern times and seem attractive and desirable to men we have become over sexualized and overexposed. We are attempting to look and act like a ‘smut’ because, poor us, we believe that is what men want. Since this has happened there are no longer any of what Preston considers ‘good girls’. Below is my response to Preston’s theory about modern women.
Dear Preston Waters,
There are many things about your article that I find offensive, but for the sake of brevity I’ll focus on one aspect: Men are not the sole motivation and purpose for the actions of women. Shocking, I know. Sometimes we like to dress and act a certain way because we are human beings with individual personalities. Our lives do not revolve around pleasing you. My attitude, my interests, my choice of clothing, my sexuality, and overall lifestyle exists because I enjoy it, not because it comes with the ulterior motive of seeming attractive to you. You portray us as these weak tragic beings that have devolved because we’re trying to find new ways to be desirable to you. You almost feel sorry for us and that in itself is insulting. Women are just people. We are not extensions of men. We are people that can have organic motivations that have nothing to do with trying to be desirable to you. Your article is the epitome of narcissism because you believe that everything we do is with the intent of being what you find desirable.
You complain that women are now like men. We have lots of non-monogamous sex, we go out drinking and have a damn good time, we are not ashamed to act like fools in public, and we are no longer good girls. We drink, we have sex, and we dress and act however we damn please. I think what you’re afraid of isn’t necessarily that there aren’t anymore ‘good girls’ in the world. What you’re really afraid of is that women no longer defer to men. You want to believe that our current behavior has everything to do with you when really it is the exact opposite. Like men have done for the majority of western civilization, we women are finally doing what we want and that frightens you.
To you a ‘good girl’ is a girl who defers to men and has no agency of her own. All of her actions and motivations have everything to do with pleasing her future husband. All of her behavior will be based upon the desires of a man and being an extension of his needs. Since that is the case I hope to high heaven that for the rest of human civilization there are never any other good girls on this planet ever again.
A Very Proud Bad Girl